Actually, you are not free. You are not free to update your profile, to document your travels and hobbies online. You are not free to google old crushes and send little keep in touch notes that strike just the right tone. You are not free to wear that nail polish, to return those charming voicemails. Allowed, but not free. In fact, you should start editing your dreamlife to be less threatening, to involve the appropriate parties in approved positions. Be on the lookout for red flags of betrayal, curiosity. You know when its happening. Engaging conversation and stinging eye contact with hotties. Self-publication, self-promotion, tight shirts. Everything has a point. Everything has a consequence. You are carrying a heavy load. You are not even close to free.
At last, I have found the one, I am free.
Now that we're married, I am free.
This soaring feeling, it must be in love.
I don't need a man, I am free.
No hangups here, man, love is free.
Those were my wild days, when I was free.
He is not my responsibility anymore, I am free.
She was always dragging me down, now I'm free.
No one to clean up after anymore, I am free.
And even when you are inviting that guy over to help hang drapes, the one you just met on a whim on the train, you are not really free. It is not really whim. You will have to lay down the law. You will have to get this show on the road. Because even when you’re wearing those boots, out too late, chatting up the boss, the truckdriver, the guy with an accent, even with that addictive, spiraling spark in your gut, you are not free. That is not freedom you’re feeling as you wait for him to call you back. You will catalog every detail, and chain yourself with them. You collect these stone memorials: Name, Features, Quotable Quotes. You are not free as you try to pick out the right outfit, the right words, testing the smell of your breath on the back of your hand. Being yourself. Being spontaneous. Waiting to see what happens: Nope. Everything has a point. And everyone knows what the point is.
You will grow into soft indifference. A lazy faith in late afternoon fucking. You will fall asleep quickly. No expectations, no details. Codependent and satisfied. Being wherever it is you're supposed to be at 10pm, in early Spring, in your late twenties, in a city like this. Rebel if you wanna, but don't tease yourself. You are convincing him, getting rid of him, making plans with him, as if you own the joint, but you are not free at all.